So, here is a view of life from the perspective of a recent college graduate in 2010. Hopefully it will help those who are struggling to adjust to life after college and give those shortly facing the same challenge a leg up.
I’d like to start by saying that
worry is a wasteful habit. However, habits are not easily broken. Perhaps the
most important lesson that I learned during my time at this wonderful
institution of higher education, is one that has little to do with books or
professors. Life is unpredictable. The pattern of events, the sequence of time
that will define our existence is impossible to determine. But have no fear, it
is also largely under our own control. Hard work, honesty, and perseverance
will almost always allow us to attain our goals. More on that later. Let’s take
a little journey through the months surrounding graduation from Saint Anselm
College, shall we?
One year ago, as a senior, I was
spending my days as an intern for the United States Probation department, and
my nights searching for and applying to job openings (okay a few nights here
and there). From that effort the only promising interview that I was able to
secure wasn’t found on careerbuilder or craigslist, though. A friend suggested
I visit the website for a youth home and apply for a position (she will
probably still try to take full credit for my job offer there). Time sped by
without so much as a pause and before I could even wave to say hello, it was
time to say goodbye. After all the laughs and tears of leaving St. A’s in a
black cap and gown with a rolled up piece of paper in my hand, the reality of
graduating in the midst of the worst economic downturn since the great
depression began to set in. It hit pretty hard right around mid July, when the
job offer I had received was repealed due to a “hiring freeze”. Almost three
months of job searching lost in a two minute phone conversation. So, what to
do?
Between days working part time for
my father’s tree care company I was spending tedious hours searching for jobs
related to my criminal justice degree (which is still rolled up on my
bookshelf, but Father Jonathan I promise I plan to buy a nice frame for it). A
few interviews later, I was offered another job. I wish I could tell you that I
am now happily employed, working within my desired field toward a comfortable
future. However, I am currently a Field Support Representative for Ikon Office
Solutions (a supplier of copy machines). Such is life, however, and I am
thankful that I have steady employment and the opportunity to gain some work
experience.
Back to that important lesson I
spoke of before. Lets say that I were to jump into the DeLorean time machine
with Doc Brown, set the time circuits to April of 2009, gun it to 88 mph, knock
on the door of D2 and tell my past self what I would be doing in a year. Now I
know that theoretically the universe would be destroyed (sorry, if you’ve never
seen Back to the Future you won’t
understand this elaborate reference), but getting back to the point, I would
have thought that future me was fit for a straitjacket. Most days at the end of
my college career I worried about what I would do for a living. What did I want
to do? I had only small inclinations (even now I am less than confidently clear
about what I would rather be doing). I worried about comps, I worried about
writing my thesis sized internship paper, I worried about finding a job, I
worried about moving back home. But you know what, all those things came and
passed. I worked hard and prepared myself for these inevitable happenings and I
realized that worrying about them is useless. I had a quality education, a
supportive entourage of family and friends, and an open minded determination.
Now maybe you're thinking, why should
I listen to this kid who couldn’t even get a job in his field? Well you would
certainly have a valid point (even though I’m working on that), but I’d still
like to offer some insight to you seniors who may be able to relate to my
message.
First, stop worrying about jobs and
apartments and bills and loan payments. Those things will all show their ugly
faces soon enough. All you can do is be prepared.
Second, don’t put a label on your
future. Expectations are made to be broken and they probably will be. Most of
mine were shot after about a month in the “real world”. Now, I’m not saying
that this is necessarily a bad thing. I’m just saying that you should be ready
to roll with the punches and adjust to change. This flexibility will be a huge
asset which will put you miles ahead of your competition in any field, and it
will also allow you to pounce on opportunity when it presents itself.
Third, be ambitious but not
foolish. Most of us need to find a happy medium between settling for something
that is too far below our abilities and only reaching for our dream job. There
is nothing wrong with living off mom’s cooking for a while (I definitely miss
momma L’s Shephard's Pie when I’m eating a grilled cheese sandwich in my
apartment).
A few weeks ago I found myself back
in a state of worry. I was worried about females (go ahead and laugh), I was
worried about bills, I was worried about hating my job, etc. It’s definitely
tough to break this habit, but I have found that life is a journey most worth
taking when you don’t worry about the ride. As long as you’re prepared. So,
fill up the tank, charge the iPod, check the oil, and say a prayer.
Saint Anselm College was the best decision I have ever
made, it’s a spiritual place that can never really be duplicated. Last words of
wisdom: enjoy the rest of the year. Take pictures, go on cruises and drink
(water) outside with some polish horseshoes. Drag your cheap uppers couch
outside and soak in every second of it. Oh, and don’t worry (not sure if I said
that yet), life after SAC isn’t so bad.
Nice post ben. I feel almost exactly like you do about the state of things, woof.
ReplyDeleteWhen I think about graduation I remember everyone waiting for you to arrive at the graduation party in Conway. You were late because you had an interview. So we gave your car a champagne shower.
Great blog, Ben! Cheers to not worrying and trying to be prepared for all life brings :)
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